Friday, 17 August 2012

Cuckoo's third

Parenting woes.
That's what I plan to wail about today. This is a warning for people who get bored by these things.
Today was open day at Urvi's  school. So it started in the morning. I had to nag her to get her moving, which she was extremely reluctant to do. I had to turn into the terrible and bossy mother, always bullying her:(

This is the tone of most of our days. Me nagging her to do everyday stuff that she has to do like brushing, flushing, bathing, eating, etc she trying her utmost not to do it.
So the situation deteriorates with  me turning Hitler and threatening her with dire consequences" IF NOT.......". What ever happened to gently guiding your child to do the right things at the right time? Must be another MYTH

So this afternoon after having administered a whack on the back for intolerable behaviour,  I felt like the most despicable parent tyrant.
To modify MY behaviour I made a chart with Urvi's BAD behaviour and Good behaviour written in bold black and red, put two sad faces under the black and advised her that if she got any more sad faces, some privileges would be taken away.

She promptly took a paper wrote MIRA BAD Mners and put 5 sad faces under it, pinned it up and announced all my privileges were gone for the day!

Then, listen to this -this caps it all, I told her that I awas the parent and she Couldn't do a thing to me. Can you believe that? Clear abuse of power.
I need HELP!










Wednesday, 1 August 2012

Cuckoos Second

This was a long time in coming. but it did come.
My life is chiefly occupied in extracting every ounce of pleaseure that I can from days otherwise  filled with routine.

If I have crawled into a corner with a good book to read, If I have gone out    with friends for a bit, If I have done some fun exercise like yoga, fastwalk(with some fast talk), If I have cooked and enjoyed eating good food, If I have not scloded Urvi once the wholeday, then I would say my day has been good.

I need to work. Not for money exactly (Money is very important ofcourse) it's, I suppose a fear that I will dwindle into being a mere house wife without work...well it is also more than that! It is also the feeling that I can be independent financially and have a life outside of family.

My biggest worry these days is that I am not being  very considerate towards Urvi. I could be more sensitive and patient.
OH.....!

what else???

Hopefully more will follow soon in cuskoo's third.